Advice- what not to do in relationships

A guide on what not to do in relationships 

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Hello my lovely's, how are we doing today? Finally managed to get a good night sleep in me! I had my boyfriend over, I felt super safe and relaxed with him being there :).
I have been trying to post this blog post since late last night, but the WiFi wasn't having it, and then decided to delete it .. Fun times right.
I thought that it would be interesting and helpful to note down what you shouldn't do in relationships; I was treated badly in the past; from my ex's behaviours I have created a list of what not to do in relationships.
Most of these are common sense, but there are things out there which some people might not know. If you want to give this post a little read then go ahead :). 

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Background information:
I've had 3 years of experience with relationships, in this time frame I had 3 relationships (not including the one I'm in now). I'm not going to name names, but these 3 individuals taught me a lot about how bad relationships can be; because before I met Chris, I was never truly happy; simply because I was never treated right. 
I've been cheated on countless times, hurt mentally and physically. Not all of them physically hurt me, only one of them, and that was my first ever boyfriend; if you want to know more about that situation click here.
I still am a very shy and kind person, maybe I was too kind to all of them, if they wanted anything I gave my all, but in return they gave nothing back, they took advantage of my personality. But I have learnt so much from these people, I have learnt to become stronger as a person, and not have to give everything up. Now I am truly and utterly happy with Chris, we have nearly been together a year :).

Don't lie to your partner:

This sounds obvious, and for some people out there who are reading this is probably thinking I'm stupid. I'm really not. Don't lie to your other half, I can't stress enough how much this  hurt me over the years, I don't care how much the truth hurts, I can handle the truth. Lies ruin trust, which is one of the main factors in a relationship; it's the glue that holds everything together-if that is broken chances are you won't be together very long after that incidence. Female or male, just don't lie, if you can't be truthful to the person you claim to love then leave, because they don't deserve to be treated in this way.
Some of the lies that I was told was told ruined me:

• "I would never cheat on you, you're my world";
• "I love you";
• "I will always be there for you";
• "she's nobody, just a friend, she's like a sister to me"
• "I was out in town, sorry I was late";
• "my Granddad died" 

Don't put their hopes up and bring them down:

This was constant for me, I learnt over the years that if they said they were going to do something, chances are they weren't. This is one of the most disappointing factors, simply because there modd could change in a heartbeat. For example, there was a time where my ex promised to take me out, it was to say sorry for something that he did previously. I made sure that I looked nice, spent hours getting ready and even bought new clothes. I walked to where we were meant to meet and waited for at least an hour; for him to say, "sorry, something came up I will do it another time".
I can't stress this enough, if  you can't keep your word, or do what you say you are going to do, either change the way you treat people or leave your current partner; simply because this is heartbreaking. 

Don't take advantage of them:

Don't ask or take money:
Don't ask for money, or even guilt trip them into giving you money. That is their money, they have worked hard for that, if they want to treat you they will, but only when they want to and if they can afford to. If you ask for money on a regular basis get your own job or spend your own wages. In my case I had an ex who would constantly ask for money, and I would give it to them as they would make me feel awful if I didn't. They would also steal from me, all of my hard working pennies went on them; and not because I wanted to. This ruins relationships, I wish I left that person sooner; but because of certain circumstances I couldn't.

Never forget your friends:

When you head into a new relationship you start to put your partner before anyone else, but don't let this consume your life. You have known your friends more than this person you are currently with. I made this mistake once and I hated myself for it; I put my ex's before my friends and I regret it so much; I hurt them as I didn't make time for them. In my current relationship I share myself equally, I don't spend too much time with my boyfriend or friends; I also need alone time when it comes to it-everyone needs to relax at some point in their life. 

Don't compare your other half:

Never do this! And if you do STOP IT RIGHT NOW! The amount of time my ex's would do this, it would break my heart and shatter it to millions of pieces. I was constantly compared to other girls who had bigger boobs, bigger hips and prettier faces. It really does take a toll, it makes you feel worthless and not good enough. I always struggled putting on weight, I'm a very slim person; and with this comes no boobs. I was constantly reminded of this insecurity. If your boyfriend or girlfriend is constantly comparing you to other people; they are not worth your time. Leave them, because you are amazing in your own way, if they can't see that and won't appreciate you, then they don't deserve your beautiful self. 

This is the end of my post! Thank you so much for reading this! If you are going through this situation, then get yourself out of it! If  you want to contact me for further information then please feel to do so :). If you are reading this and you are doing this to people, leave the person you are with and change yourself; people should not be treated in this way; it ruins them for years-believe me I was a victim of this. 

I love you all so very much, I will see you tomorrow with a review! Stay safe and stay tuned Little ones! :D x x x 

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Product review

Mac Turquatic Perfume

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Disclaimer: I am not being paid by Mac Cosmetics, I have been a fan of this perfume for a year now and I absolutely love it. This is based on my opinion and my opinion only.

Good morning everyone! How was your weekend? Was it productive? I started my trail day of my new job yesterday and I loved it! I will write about my experience later on today in another blog post. 

If you are a Mac fan and love their products I'm sure you will like this review. If you haven't tried this perfume I suggest you do! :D
If you want to know my thoughts and feelings, and details about this product, look below and enjoy reading :) 

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PRESENTATION:

Can we just talk about how beautiful this packaging is?! The ombre blue, sinking into the green is enchanting and breathtaking. I have never seen anything like this with perfume packaging, it's innovative, and I'm so glad that a company has done something outside of the box. Don't get me wrong, I think the classical glass bottle and fancy writing is stunning; but this is extraordinary! Additionally, as you explore the bottle, the base has earthy green feathers, this clearly emulates seaweed; which is commonly associated with the sea. In regards to the cap on the bottle, the piercing teal green is beautiful and eye-catching; it looks like reflections of the sea surface; it brings back the memories of when I went to the aquarium center in London; and I could see what was essentially the ocean. On the other hand, the spray nozzle is fantastic, a little goes a long way! Which one pump so much perfume comes out, it covers the entire body. The pump action isn't stiff, it's smooth, and because the mental has been buffed it doesn't get stuck, unlike cheap perfumes. 

The glass element adds a sense of luxury, makes it evident that it's perfume, and also makes it clearer to see the ombre affect; it creates the illusion that you are carrying the sea. 

I love that Mac has embroidered their logo, this makes it evident that this is their product; anyone who looks at this will associate it with Mac, and think,'wow, this is a beautiful product, I wonder what else Mac creates'. This is what I thought, and I love their products. Additionally, I love the way they link the name of their product and portray this within the packaging; this shows that they are a well thought out business, and go outside of the box in order to compete with their market. 

THE PRODUCT: 

This is a well crafted perfume, we soon as you smell this scent it breathtaking and beautiful. At first it's sweet, but not in terms of actual sweets; you can tell that it's a feminine scent. It then takes you on a journey on a night out; it luxurious, sexy and mysterious. It's not overwhelming either, it doesn't smell like chemicals either, it's a natural scent. Let me put you in my perspective, it smells like when you are walking down the street, and a woman walks past you, and they smell like perfection; this is what it smells like. As well as this, it lasts a long time; although I use it a lot, as it's my go to perfume. I have used this non-stop for a year and I've purchased 3 bottles. 

When I spray this, it takes me back to the time when I first bought this. I was out in London, it was the 22nd of June/July and the weather in the UK was perfect! It was around 25-30! I have heard so many great things about this perfume so I decided to finally purchase it! I went into Selfridges and headed to the Mac counter, I saw at the till point that the perfume was there; I picked it up and bought it. I remember walking outside of Selfridges, the heat hit my face and to cool myself down I sprayed this on. It was sensational; the smell was breathtaking and purely amazing. It's my favourite perfume; like I said, this is my third bottle! 

PRICE:

The price of the 50ml is £39 on their website, but if you want the 20ml it's £23. This is a very affordable perfume, before I had bought this I never looked up how much it was, just because I assumed it would be around the £30-60 mark. When she said it was £30 I was shocked, it's really inexpensive for a high end fragrance; so I thought that this was a complete bargain. In the past year I have bought 3 bottles, but I've only recently bought the third, and I still have a tiny amount in my second. They also offer a roll on perfume for £16, which I also bought, and this lasted 5 months! I would normally apply that on my neck and wrists. 

All in all I think this product is a must have! This is my signature smell, it's what I'm known for. My boyfriend says, "this is my Amy smell"; this is what he associates me with, it would be strange if I wore anything else. 

I would HIGHLY recommend! Even if you are not into it, it makes a great gift for friends or family.

If you are interested in buying from the Mac Turquatic range click the link below and explore :D 

http://www.maccosmetics.co.uk/product/13815/17323/Products/Fragrance/Turquatic/Turquatic-50ML

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Sixth Form

My personal experience at Sixth Form :

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This blog post isn't the most positive, is anything it's rather depressing, but this is factual and what has happened in my life at Sixth Form. If you can't handle overwhelming situations then please don't read this.
This was a very hard post for me to make, and I was debating whether to post it or not, but I know that this could help some people.

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Hello! I hope you are all doing well and enjoying your summer holidays (if you've started them); if not then enjoy exam period, revise hard! I have finally finished Sixth Form, of which was an overwhelming experience. I thought that by sharing this experience with you guys would help some people; because you aren't alone. 

Throughout this blog post I will take you through the three years of my life during Sixth Form, and what ever year bought and taught me. 

I would just like to backtrack ... Year 11 embedded our minds with thinking that we SHOULD head into Sixth Form, it would "give you a better life", "if you want to be successful join Sixth Form", "don't go to college", "if you want to be a failure head into college" ... You get the point, Sixth Form really judged college students, you are seen as "stupid" if you go to college; I don't think this in the slightest now. I did back then and I'm ashamed, they brainwash you. As a year 11 student, I was quiet, shy, but polite. I did everything I was told, never missed any lessons, my attendance was 100%. You could say that I was the stereotypical goody goody.

I applied for Sixth Form with my Secondary School and I couldn't wait! I was full of excitement to start the next chapter of my life! I was going to be "successful" and "brilliant"; just like my teachers told me.

When my GCSE  results came through, along with my acceptance letter, I was overjoyed! I was starting year 12 (2013) in September and I couldn't wait to be apart of the higher School, to be seen as a leader. 

Year 12:

September 2013:

I was starting the new year with high ambitions, studying one of my passions: English. Whereas Business and Finance was based on School influences; to begin with I really enjoyed my subjects, they were interesting enough for me to keep up with my studies; but as months rolled past I lost interest; especially in Finance. I was told that if I passed both Business and Fiance I could change my A level subjects when I hit year 13; but this would mean that I would have to stay another year in order to finish those extra courses ... So that's what I decided to do. I had a new goal in mind, knew how to do it. 

April 2014:

Anxiety was getting worse. The stress and the pressure to do well in all three subjects was getting to me, alongside with a two week trip for business which was due any day. This entailed going to a business and shadowing various people for two weeks. This made it very difficult to revise, especially with exams starting next month; I was having panic attacks every other day, I didn't know how to cope, I felt like I was trapped in my own mind; I felt alone. Matters only became worse when two particular boys started hounding me, they bullied me to the point where I couldn't take it anymore. They were so cruel, reminding me of traumatic experiences I've encountered. They pushed me so far that I tried to commit suicide. On that very day, I came home on my first day of work experience, completely drained from the constant hassle they were sending me. And I tried to commit suicide. It was all a blur, I remember crying hysterically, looking at what I just tried to do ... And felt completely numb. 

Heading into School the next day was not happening, I didn't go for a while. My head of year phoned and demanded why I was attending School; this was strange behaviour, as I had 100% attendance. I couldn't talk on the phone, instead I went into School with my dad. I sat down in my head of years office and told him everything that had been going on from the very beginning. He took bullying "very seriously" and kept me and them apart. He demanded "serious punishment". I then went to the deputy head with my dad, I had showed her the messages that they were sending me; which entailed: "go kill yourself", "wouldn't it be funny if you died", "I wonder how deep she will cut into her wrists this time". She saw these messages, and I kid you not, she said, "I wouldn't take it so seriously, they were joking". I was livid, I have never EVER been rude to a teacher, but this was the time to speak; and I sure did. My dad wasn't so happy either, as you can obviously imagine. 

After a few weeks exams were over, nothing had been done with those boys apart from them not being allowed near me; but that was it, no punishment, nothing. 

Within 6 years attending my Secondary School I had never asked for help, but this was the only time where I needed there help, I wanted it, I wanted to feel safe at School and not trapped ... And they did nothing. 

August 2014

Results day was here, and within my hands was: A English, A Business and B Finance. My blood sweat and tears went into those results and I was overwhelmed with joy! I knew that I could change these subjects into my true passions! Which was: Photography, Media and Product Design. I was so proud, that after what happened the, previous months it didn't affect what I really wanted. I was so excited to start my subjects in September, I was going to be in year 13; which means "more responsibility, and stress; but I thought I could deal with it. 

Year 13:

September 2014:

You know what this means? New academic year, new courses, and the same boring induction. Everyone worrying about not doing their Summer assignments, extra reading etc. And I was just so happy to be in a place where I would experience true happiness. Especially product design, our class contained a total of 6 people. This making me less anxious; as big classes make me really intimidated. On the other hand, Photography was thrilling, our first lesson consisted on testing aperture and shutter speed. I remember running across the grass and jumping, hoping that somebody would take a clear photograph instead of fuzzy. In regards to Media one of the teachers made it sound amazing, and it was! The coursework side of things was exciting! It was creative and artistic which is what I love! I love to create. Whereas the exam side of things ... My other teacher wasn't so great, she didn't even turn up to the first lesson ... You can tell that this wasn't going to be good. 

November 2014:

Glandular fever had taken over. I have never been so immobile, so sick or useless in my entire life. I had to take a solid month of School to recover, and even then I wasn't completely well until January. I had missed my November mocks, and was made to take them in February; this triggered my anxiety. The workload was much more intense, I couldn't work from home during my sickness as I was too weak. I didn't know how to deal with the stress, so instead of facing it head on I ran away from the situation. I started missing most of my lessons, my attendance in Media was 50%, I basically taught myself AS media, as I was too scared to face my teachers and show them that I was weak. Deadlines were getting missed, this made my anxiety worse; which also triggered the depression. I wasn't motivated, as well as running away I didn't want to do anything. The phone kept ringing from School, demanding where I was. My parents were loosing their patience with me; which only made it worse. It got to the point where I didn't want to be there anymore, it was making me unwell for my mental and physical health. 

March 2015:

ALL PRODUCT DESIGN COURSEWORK DUE IN. Prior to this my classmate had destroyed the table I was making in order for my coursework to even exist. When I was too weak to make my table, I asked one of the people in my class to sand the table; I had left the room for no more than 5 minutes. They went to find me and said that they were so sorry, but they had sanded one spot for too long it had actually left a dip in the table. This was the only piece of wood I had ... They said "I will get you new wood for next lesson. The next lesson never came, and 5 weeks later the deadline was due in. 

You are probably thinking 'why didn't you buy some?'. I had already spent £200 on 100% oak wood, I literally couldn't afford it at that time. 

I handed in what I had and hoped that it was worth a pass. It wasn't. They handed me a straight U because of that person. What makes it worse, the wood that he was meant to give me, he used on his own work. 

I had the option of: building an entire table and updating my coursework in 1 week, or dropping the course entirely just so I wouldn't have a U on my record. At that moment in time I dropped it all, I physically couldn't handle the stress. I had 2 other A levels to worry about, I couldn't sacrifice them as well. 

August 2015:

At this point I didn't care what I got, I was already applying for apprenticeships. I looked at my results and was shocked to see two straight C's in Photography and Media. Despite my lack of attendance I had made it threw to year 14. 

With my parents persuasion ... I was entering year 14, but I wasn't happy, I had no motivation for this year. The slight enthusiasm was University. I wanted to study Marketing, this was my only goal left at this point, and I wanted it more than ever. 

Year 14 

September 2015:

Same old rubbish. Same old groups sitting at lunch, bitching about one another, who's had sex with who etc. I had my head down, I was heading to University, that is my one and only goal; this is the only reason I'm here. I looked alone, my year had left, all my friends had gone, I was alone. I didn't mind, I had my music, book and phone; I was good to go.
They tell you that the jump from year 11 to 12 is massive. It's really not. The jump from AS to A2 IS! The workload they expect you to do is insane! Media for me was no longer a passion, it was pure hatred. Photography not so much, I still relatively liked it enough to do mediocre.

March 2016:

Results for my photography coursework was due in (I handed in my draft in January), my teacher sat me down and said "I'm really sorry but I have lost parts of your work", I looked at the piece of paper she gave me and it said U. I thought it was backwards, because the amount of work I had produced since September was worth about a C grade; that's what she was telling me anyway. As you can imagine I wasn't a happy bunny. But this is March and you know what that means? To start exam preparation for Photography, which also means to put down the coursework you've been working on since September, and try and catch up on it when you can. The EXAM work is double the course work, and they give you 2 months to complete this, as well as amendments on your coursework. CRAZY RIGHT?! So for two months I had no life. I didn't go out, I put my head down and I did as much work as physically possible, while cramming in Media revision. 

May 2016:

Deadline for ALL photography work was due, I handed it in and didn't give a damn. I walked out of that room with my head held high, I put everything into that coursework and exam. Knowing that I started to feel fulfillment and joy, feelings I haven't felt in years. 

June 2016:

Media exam was finally here and I was excited. I knew what I needed to know and I applied that to my two and a half hour exam. I didn't stop writing, I wrote for that long I gave myself blisters. I kept smiling at the clock ticking by, thinking that soon ... I will be free from this School. This place that caused so much misery in my life, it's going to be my past and I can't wait to leave.
When that exam was over, I ran into Chris' arms (my boyfriend), smiled and cried with joy. To think that I was finally free from all the pain and depression. The weight that was lifted off my shoulders was overwhelming. I could finally do what I've wanted to do for years! One was writing my blog! To read a book! I have missed sitting down and reading books! I can also draw and paint! Things I haven;t been able to do for a long time, and I can finally do it! I can't express the happiness and fulfillment. I had left that School behind, and I didn't care, I was just happy.

To this current day, I have been free from my anti-depressants and anxiety tablets for months.
I'm so thankful for my boyfriend, family and friends that I have in my life.
I'll be getting my results this August, I will keep you undated to what University I'm going to :).

REMEMBER! This was my personal experience, if anyone out there feels like this, you are NOT alone! I've been there and I know how you feel.
If you want to talk to me I'll happily have that conversation with you.

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Like always, see you soon Little ones and stay tuned :) x x x