Advice-anxiety on business trips

How to deal with anxiety on business trips

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Good morning! How are you today and what are you up to? I thought that I would write a blog post that has been on my mind for a while; it's started to eat me up and I need to get it out of my system. As you may not know I'm on a business trip with EE; I'm doing training for my new job; but this requires to be away from home. With this causes a huge amount of anxiety; of which I would like to share with you, in help that it might give a hand to somebody else who is going through the same situation as me.
If you want to know about my current experience and how I am dealing with it, then have a little read down below :). 

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What comes to my mind:

What I'm about to tell you is from my own mind, some people may think it's stupid or crazy, but since being here I've been worrying about so much. Simply because I am away from home, and I'm alone in this room.

Irrational thoughts:

• Someone breaking in:
  This was one of the thoughts that came to mind, I was looking around the room and thought, 'what if someone broke in?'
  The arrays of entries they have is unreal, the front door being one. As well as the vents and windows. I know this sounds crazy to some people, but these thoughts come with severe anxiety. I have thought of all the ways in which they can come into my room, and all the ways in which I would escape if anything did happen. 
• How would I escape if anyone did break in?
  When you've been in hotels on your own for a few weeks you have time to think of what to do. If this ever happened to me, I would know before they were in the room, simply because I'm a very aware person. I would create a diversion, to do this I would:
  Turn the shower on and close the door slightly, this would make them appear that I'm in the shower. I would be hiding near the wardrobe; once they clear the door I would run for my life.
  This probably sounds silly to some people, but people with anxiety will know what I'm talking about.
• Someone always watching me:
  I actually hate the fact that I'm alone in this room, I am always on edge, I can never actually rest or relax. Whenever I am: in the shower, doing my make-up, getting ready for the day or bed; I feel that someone is watching me. Simply because I hate being on my own, even when I'm home alone in my own home I feel on edge and scared. 

These are just some of the various thoughts that come to mind, but they are all real. I swear I am not crazy I just want to take extra precaution. 

How to deal with it?

This is how I deal with it, these are only my methods, they may not help everyone but if they help at least one person then I am happy with that :).

• Listen to music:
  I find that listening to music which makes you happy and content really does help, that's what I've been doing these past few weeks, especially when writing this blog post; as I don't want to listen to just the keyboard. Music takes me to another world and makes me extremely happy, it takes my worries away and replaces it with joy and excitement. I'm currently listening to, Hymn for the weekend-Coldplay. This song is so positive! To be perfectly honest their new album, A head full of dreams is powerful and energetic; I'd give it a little listen, only if you like their music, or want to try something new.
• Watch YouTube:
  When the Wifi connection is good, which is around 1am-5am I will watch some YouTube videos. To be honest with you I can't stay up too late, so 1am isn't happening for me, but I'm an early bird, so around 4 or 5am I will watch a couple of videos. They take my mind off the anxiety and make me relax as well as laugh. I've always been a fan of Shane Dawson, he never fails to make me laugh, so I will always watch him; as well as YouTube drama-it's entertaining, plus it wakes me up a little more. 
• Read a book:
  I have been reading a lot, and that'seven throughout the day, when I find a book I love and adore, chances are  you are not taking it away from me. Some nights where I can't sleep I will read with the lights on. One because I can see what I'm reading, and two because I hate the dark-and yes I sleep with the lights on.
  I find that reading really helps me sleep, and also takes me to another world until I fall asleep. I would highly recommend this method; probably one of my favorites, but that's because I love reading. I am currently reading The Lake House by Kate Morton. I have read this book 3 times and it's still one of my favorite. 
• Skype:
  I would highly recommend this one! When I can Skype my boyfriend or Mum I sure as hell will! I love it when I'm getting ready for bed simply because this is when I'm most anxious, having someone there talking to you really helps; as it creates the illusion that they are in the room with you. For the past few weeks I have been Skyping my boyfriend and Mum for a long period of time; I really miss them,so so much; that's what's making this trip really hard for me. But hopefully Chris will actually be seeing me tonight! I'm so happy and excited, I've missed holding him for a long period of time.
  If you have a partner or close friend bring them along at some point of your journey. It makes it so much easier; if you can't then Skype is always there :).

This is the end of my blog post, thank you so much for reading guys! I hope this has helped someone out there, even if it's only one person; that is one person less having to deal with this. I will be having to write only one blog post a day for 3 more weeks, as I'm going to France next week, and I will be back in training for another week and a bit after that. You just have to be patient with me and this rubbish Wifi. I'm so lucky that I have been able to post 2 blog posts in 2 days! 

I will see you again tomorrow with a product review! There won't be any vegan recipes until Saturday, but I will make at least 3 or 4 and post them throughout the week so I have something to give back to you when I'm in France. 

I love you all so very much! Stay safe and stay tuned Little ones :) x x x 

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Advice on people

Fake Friends 

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Good evening! I know it's very late, but this has been toying on my mind for a couple of weeks. I thought that it was about time to finally let it out and tell you what I've experienced in the hope that you can relate; and that I can help people; because you aren't alone ... People get treated like this and it sucks.

If you want to read my personal experience on fake friends, and how to deal with it have a little read below :).

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What is a fake friend?

• Fundamentally, from my personal experience a fake friend is someone who isn't always there for you. For example, if you are having a bad time at work, school, home etc. they support you when they can be bothered, if not at all. They are "too busy" to deal with your problems; which could be the case; but a TRUE friend would give you time out of their day to make sure that you are happy and healthy. 
• A fake friend is someone who won't make time for you ... You are always free and wanting to see them, but they always have something going on; they have to walk their dog, they suddenly aren't feeling well, they have made other plans and forgot etc. Which again could be the case, but they always have an excuse to why they never hang out with you. I would know, I was trying to make arrangements with someone for nearly a year. 
• A fake friend is someone that pretends to understand you, for example they will sit there and pretend they are interested in what you have to say, for them to talk about their issues of their successes and rub it in your face. This is one of the most hurtful aspects, simply because you believe in yourself that you can not only trust them, but think that they actually care and respect you; when in fact it's all a lie.
• They use you. A fake friend will use you for: your time or money, for example, if they are bored, or they've been cancelled on they will suddenly contact you out of the blue and ask if you can meet up. They are using you for your time as they know that you will come running. I know from my personal experience this was always the case; I would message my friend, constantly reminding them if they were free; or when they would like to see me; but it was always, "I'm super busy" ... But they would change their mind a few hours later if their other plans failed. 
• Fake friends lie to you, this has happened to me on so many occasions, for example if I had wanted to see said person, they would use the common excuse, "I'm super busy", "I'm at work", for me to find them on social media chilling in their back-garden ... Oh yeah, "super busy" alright. 

My experience:

In my 19 years of existence I have come into contact with MANY fake friends. It's something that happens to everyone unfortunately. In regards to my experience it's been an emotional  roller coaster, I've had my ups and downs, being ignored for months, and then for them to come back into my life like nothing happened. Some people have really messed me up, and think that it's ok because I'm "nice". Taking advantage of somebody because they hold a lot of patience is cruel and upsetting. On the other hand, it has taught me life lessons. One being, be careful who you trust, for example I had a really close friend, I thought the world of her, I told her pretty much everything about me; and she left without a word or trace. I learnt quickly that everything she told me was a lie, if she cared about me that much she wouldn't of left. I learnt that I have to be careful who I trust; I'm an open book I will talk about anything; but personal details about my life stay enclosed to people I really love and care about. 

In addition to this, I have also learnt to let go, you can't expect everyone in your life to stay, you have to be prepared that some people do leave and you have no idea why. Don't blame yourself because it's not you it's them. They are the one mistreating you, you don't deserve this backlash. If someone does leave, don't be disheartened, remember it was them and not you; if you know deep down that you did nothing then don't blame yourself, it's not worth the sleepless nights and panic attacks; believe me I learnt the hard way; some things happen for a reason. And your reason being that you can find a true and proper friend :). 

How do deal with it? 

When I was going through this my first port of call was to question myself. For example, I would draw a spider diagram, put questions in the middle and pin point what I thought was the route cause. The questions were as followed:

• What happened for them to go off me?
• What have I done?
• What haven't I done?
• What are they like?
• Why have I been making all the effort and not them?

If you can answer these questions with confidence and analyse them clearly, and you come to the conclusion that it's not you it's them ... Then you are right. You do not need to blame yourself because it's not your fault that they are behaving in such a cruel and selfish manor. 

I cried. A LOT. It's healthy to cry and let your feelings out, you have been betrayed by someone you thought cared about you; you deserve to cry! Don't be scared to either, I was at first because I thought I was being ridiculous but I wasn't. I wrote down my feelings and spoke to my mum and Chris. After explaining the entire situations on both sides they reassured me that it wasn't me, it was them and I should stop putting so much time and effort into that person who isn't worth it.  

Little one's you are not the route cause of their behaviour, they can only change when they want to; so stop blaming yourself because it;s not your fault. I've stopped blaming myself, I've stopped crying and caring for that person, because you are so much better than them :). 

If you have a fake friend in your life and they have not left, then leave then and give them a CLEAR explanation of why. That way they are not left in the dark, and they can reflect on their bad behaviour and change in the future. 

Thank you for reading this blog post, I really hope this helped; I know for a fact that this would have helped me a few months ago; because I was going out of my mind. If you need any reassurance or comfort I am always here to talk to, you can use my social media below or personal email to contact me; whatever you are comfortable with :) 

I love you all so very much and I will see you tomorrow morning with my first give away blog post :) Stay tuned and stay safe :) x x x 

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Lush oatifix facial mask review

Oatifix Mask Review:

Disclaimer: I have not been paid by lush to do this review, what I'm telling you about this product is just based off my opinion and my opinion only.

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Good evening Little ones! How have you been today? I'm waiting for my soup to simmer, so I thought I would sit down and write a review on the ever so famous: OATIFIX FACIAL MASK from Lush! If you want to know my thoughts, what this product is about, and how to use it; peel your eyes below and have a good read :) 

This is what the facial mask looks like when you've applied it to the face, I used my hands. It doesn't look attractive, but the smell and results afterwards is beautiful:).

PRESENTATION:

In regards to presentation, I can tell straight away that it's Lush, their iconic black packaging and handwritten logo make it obvious that it's them. I love their packaging, it's simplistic yet luxurious; which interlinks with their products, they are well made products. I love that they place the instructions on the top of the lid, this makes it easier to read and to find; other brands make it impossible to find the 'how to' instructions; whereas Lush have you covered. 

In addition to this, the little black pot makes it convenient and easy to put away, you are evidently meant to put it in the fridge, and if you don't have much space in there, this can easily slide into a tiny corner. You may be thinking, that's a small pot .. Bet a differ, this container holds a mass amount of product! This is my third pot in two years, and I use it once a week, a little goes a long way. 

THE PRODUCT:

This facial mask contains: bananas and illipe butter, this moisturizes the skin beautifully, and it really does, after I have taken the mas off my skin feels like a baby's butt! I suffer with really dry skin, to the point that it actually flakes off during the winter. When I use this mask it replenishes the moisture within my skin, as well as taking away the redness. The other reason why my skin feels silky smooth is because of the, oatmeal, ground almonds and kaolin; this acts an exfoliation. This means that when you are applying, and taking off the mask with water, these grains are getting the last bits of dead skin; in my case this is perfect as I won't have any bits of dead skin on my face, which when I go to apply make-up the following day it creates a perfect silky base. On the other hand ... Can I just tell you the smell of this product is BEAUTIFUL! It's such a natural smell, I actually enjoy putting this on my face as the smell is so comforting and refreshing. If you have ever had the opportunity to walk past a cereal factory; that's what it smells like! :D   

HOW TO USE THIS PRODUCT:

1. Firstly I like to wash my face completely, especially if I have been wearing make-up. By having a complete clean face, this helps the mask penetrate the first layers of your skin, which is always dry; this will nourish and enrich this skin like it's brand new. 
2. I then leave it for 10-15 minutes, just like the instructions tell you to do. During this time I'll probably be scrolling threw Instagram or Twitter :')
   By leaving this mask on for such a long time, it will get into the nooks and grannies of your skin, this is extremely important and beneficial, especially when you have dry skin. 
3. I wash it off with warm water, and pat ... PAT dry! This is so crucial, instead of wiping away the last essence of the mask, you want to pat it in, to make sure that your skin stays hydrated for the next time that you use it.

PRICE:

This mask comes in one size which is 75 grams, this is a hell of a lot of product, and for that you can buy it on their website or in-store for £6.75. I have tried several facial masks and this is amazing for the price, you may think it's a lot of money, but the benefits is worth it! In this pot in highly expensive ingredients compact in one pot. With this product a little goes a LONG way. Like I said before, this is my THIRD pot in 2 years! And I use it once a week :)
If you are interested in purchasing this pot of gold check out their website below! 

https://uk.lush.com/

https://uk.lush.com/products/oatifix

Like always thank you for reading this post, stay tuned Little ones, see you shortly :) x x x